It gets in to your spirit.. and fills it.. but... not with The Spirit of God.
Still.. there is something so sad, so raw, so honest, so REAL about this song... it has a very BASIC life lesson that I sometimes overlook. Maybe you do too? The hook.. the gist of the song is captured in these words:
"Cause I can't make you love me if you don't;
You can't make your heart feel something it won't" *
And that's the God honest truth. If someone doesn't love you.. there is really nothing you can do about it. Nothing. I have been blessed to have so many people who loved me to the fullest measure of love. And there have been - ARE - people who do not love me. Do not want me in their lives. Much of our efforts, much of our heartbreak is that we keep trying.. keep fighting.. to have our love for another person returned to us. We may desperately remind them of what we've done for them, what we've given them, what we've given up for them. They. Don't. Care. One day... a light goes on in your dark and desperate heart and you realize that no matter what you do, what you've done.. HOW MUCH YOU LOVE that person.. they don't love you back.
So this song takes it a step further. It isn't just saying, "Oh, I understand. I can't make you love me." No the song gives an honest picture of what happens in a relationship where the love is one-sided. The person singing this song is, in essence, saying, "Since you don't love me but I love you - and - since that HURTS so MUCH - I will have to end this one-sided relationship. It's killing me. I will have to give up this fight I have been in - desperately trying to get you to love me the way I love you. I'm done. Goodbye. These are the final hours of our relationship."
The thing about humans is that when we realize that our love is one-sided adventure... when we understand that the other person DOES NOT LOVE US... then... eventually... we walk away. Or if the other person has walked away.. we accept it. We get on with our own lives. We cannot continue to truly love another person... who does not love us. It hurts too much to really, really love someone and they don't love you back.
I've been there. Done that. (O.K. Still there. Still doing that for some people).
I have truly, deeply, utterly wholeheartedly loved another person. I have watched him (her) walk away from me as if that love was cheap. As if MY love for them was worth nothing at all. My most precious gift - TO LOVE THEM WITH ALL MY HEART - meant (means) NOTHING. Like they are saying, "I don't care that you love me with all that love inside you. I. Don't. Want. You."
OUCH. OUCH. OUCH.
If you think about it the pain doesn't really come from the other person's lack of love for us.
It's our expectation of love being returned that destroys us. We think that when we love someone so deeply.. so intensely.. THEY WILL LOVE US BACK.
MANY TIMES.. THEY DON'T.
We cannot make someone love us if they don't.
SO THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP.
But.. I still love him. I still love her. I still do. And he still does not care. And neither does she.
WAIT... WAIT.. WAIT.. DON'T DESPAIR.... THERE IS HOPE. THERE IS GREAT, GREAT, HOPE!
Even though God's love is the love you are craving..
and even though you don't care that God loves you...
Even though your relationship with God may be UTTERLY ONE SIDED.. in that HE LOVES YOU.. but you don't love Him..
He isn't like us.
He doesn't walk away from people who refuse.. HIS LOVE.
GOD DOESN'T WALK AWAY AND GIVE UP ON US
JUST BECAUSE WE DON'T LOVE HIM the way HE LOVES US
Isn't. That. AMAZING?
We keep telling Him His love for us isn't important to us and HE KEEPS TRYING TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH US.
. There will come a day when your time to make the decision to love Him or not will expire. But not today. Not if you are reading this.
HE LOVES YOU WITH AN EVERLASTING LOVE.
He loves you with a love that brings life.
He loves you with a love that is so intense that He sent His Only Son to pay the price for the sin that separates you from Him.
He keeps reaching out. Keeps wanting to have a relationship. Why do you think you are reading this? So He can let you know He isn't done with the relationship. He loves you. Still. Always.
He wants a LOVE relationship with you. He isn't counting the Sundays you sit in a church somewhere.
He wants a LOVE relationship with you. He isn't counting the Sundays you sit in a church somewhere.
He is listening for the whispers of "I love you Lord. I need you Lord. I love you."
IF YOU HAVE FALLEN OUT OF LOVE FOR YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER...
OR
IF YOU HAVE NEVER LOVED HIM AT ALL..
He still loves you.
He still wants you.
"The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness." Jeremiah 31:3
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"I Can't Mike You Love Me"
*Writer/s: MIKE REID, ALLEN SHAMBLIN
Publisher: BMG RIGHTS MANAGEMENT US, LLC
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