So, o.k., here are my suggestions for living a happy life. Ready?
1) Stop trying to "be happy" and focus on being thankful. Be thankful for things you have no control over that are falling in your favor today: you can see, you can walk, you have a job, you aren't starving, you aren't living in a gulag in a third-world nation. It is an undisputable fact that happiness and contentment rise when your thankfulness does.
2) Accept your utter lack of control over most everything you are trying to control.
You cannot avoid rainy days but you can be thankful you have an umbrella.
You cannot make everyone love you but you can be thankful for the people who do.
You will not succeed at everything, but you can be thankful that at least you tried.
You cannot avoid losing things and people you love, but you can be thankful for them while you have them,
We are ALL living life on the borrowed mercy of God.
We are ALL under His control whether we acknowledge it or not.
ONLY GOD IS IN CONTROL OF ALL THINGS.
Accept that and trust His love for you,
3) Stop talking negatively about other people.
No. No. Seriously. Don't talk about the annoying co-worker, your in-laws, people at church. Everyone on earth has the self-control it takes to NOT SAY WORDS. You will not believe the effect your gossip is having on your inner being until you make the effort to STOP. STOP assuming you know why someone is doing what someone is doing, or what his/her motive is, or what they are thinking.
ONLY GOD KNOWS FOR SURE WHAT IS GOING ON IN SOMEONE'S HEART and life,
4) Expect from others what you expect others to expect from you.
We have such high standards and high expectations of others, but expect others to give us a break when we don't meet the standards we expect from others. We expect people to be polite, yet want them to excuse our rudeness; we expect people to have love that covers a multitude of our sins, but won't let anyone off the hook when they show signs of being weak and human.
"Merciless Christian" is the epitome of an oxymoron.
You cannot be one if you are the other.
OK.. well for today let's focus on these four and try them for a week or two.. and check your happiness status.
"Blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy."Matthew 5:7